July 24, 2008
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Objectification Or Appreciation?
There is much discussion and controversy around the subject of objectification of women. We are all sexual beings, however many people become irate at the presumption of women being seen as sexual objects. It makes me wonder about my own behavior and if there is a redeeming level of seeing a woman dressed in a way that pleases my senses, instead of me being perceived as inappropriate for making silent cat calls in my mind as they pass by. Perhaps that is the difference between appreciating what I see and stepping over into the realm of objectifying her which makes it perfectly ok to be lewd? I happen to find women who aren’t afraid to wear sexy things incredibly attractive. I like attention to detail. I like that it shows when they spent some time in front of the mirror to look a way that pleases them before they leave the house. I am a visual person & seek to find the extraordinary in the ordinary. Does that mean I turn all of these women I see into some kind of sexual robot and nothing more? Absolutely not! So I’m going to keep noticing all the ladies who like their skirts tight and just above the knee. I’m going to keep thinking a little bit of cleavage peeking out of an open shirt is sexy and I’m always going to notice that she must have taken 20 minutes to pick out the right shoes for her outfit. Objectification be damned, I’ll stay on the appreciation side of the street.
Camille Jones Vs.Fedde Le Grand - The Creeps
Comments (15)
Yeah, as long as you can appreciate without objectifying, that's cool. Wish more guys could be like that.
I don't think you are in the wrong at all. If a woman doesn't want to be appreciated, she will be in sweats and tennis shoes. And not just at the gym. Having someone notice that you are looking good and feeling good is awesome. Sounds like you have no issue in seeing beyond the outer package, so it's all good.
Agreed. It's only the jerks who don't realize that sexy beautiful women are human beings who just happen to be beautiful and sexy that offend. They make them less than human. Being admired, appreciated is a turn on for anyone.
Yes, appreciation is appropriate. Lewd cat calling, obviously not. A woman who dresses up likes to be noticed and appreciated.
*sparkle
I appreciate a woman who spends the extra time to make sure she is noticed..... Indeed I do....:love:
I think it all depends oh how they are treated in the long run? I don't know. I never had a problem with it. It's good to know one is attractive. Though I'm not one to doll up much. I used to I just, see no reason since I don't get out much. Haha.
@Sparkling_Rainbow -
Cat calling is funny though!!
Certainly, you are correct in noting the difference between appreciation of that which one finds alluring as opposed to objectifying, which is more a dehumanization of another person than anything. I think lewdness denotes a problem within the observer who cannot control an impulse and such a person really does look at the person as an object rather than a living being, which then is beyond any anthropological impulse to be alluring and to note appreciatively that allure.
Boundaries come with common sense and appreciation is a healthy thing.
Blessings~ :sunny:
There are many women out there (myself included), that appreciate it when a man notices she has taken time on her appearance. If a woman looks sey, it is undoubtedly because she means to.
I'm with you, sister.
(Obviously.)
I think the question of objectification is not necessarily in the appreciation of aesthetic, it's in an assumption of purpose. If you like a woman who's put some effort in, that's one thing... But if you think it's her JOB to put the effort in to please you (making yours the only POV that counts), that's something else entirely.
x.g.
underused makes a GREAT point. As one who LOVES to look purty, show off a little cleavage, work what i've got, attention is COMPLETELY appreciated. If i didn't want the attention, i wouldn't "spiff up." Honestly, who amongst us doesn't enjoy a little sexual attention.
I think anyone who says that they DON'T enjoy it is lying.
And should stick to sweats.
Well, I'm certainly not for anyone trying to 'thought police' the world! But I do think that just like there is racism, there is still a lot of sexism that stems from the objectification of women. I wouldn't read fashion magazines if I didn't appreciate a certain aesthetic, but don't usually have much of an internal reaction to how hot a person is. I do find myself wondering if men will ever grow tired of blonds with big fake boobs--I'm guessing probably not. *__* I used to try hard to present a presentable image--I'm definitely easing up on that a bit these days--but I still try to put my own spin on things even though I'm old and fat now. Ha.
I was just thinking--speaking of getting older--I'm much more likely to compliment a woman on her dress or makeup, jewelry, etc. than I would have when I was younger. I can do it without seeming catty or competitive (who can complete with someone 20 years younger--who would want to!). I love to see a girl's face light up when someone has noticed that she did fantastic eyeliner that day!
Right on!
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